To Be A Hugger or Not?

So some guy was telling a story about this other friend, He was saying that he use to be a hugger in college , but not so much now. I dont think I ever have been a hugger. Im not saying I wont hug people, but I am not much of a hugger. When I hug someone, I kind of mean it. I hate the butt out hug and the Christian side hug. I dont want to hug someone that is kind of weird. I rather just give you a high-five, black power fist, fist bump, chest bump, or even a slap on the butt. People let us not be awkward.

Things I want to do by I am 30

I am 26 and it has been almost two months since I have turned 26. I feel that I need to be more goal oriented with my life. Im not sure if I have accomplished many things with my life. I would like not to waste my life and look back on it and say, "What the fuck? I did nothing with my life". So heres my list. Most of them are not real big things, but as long as I can just accomplish some things

Thirty things to do before 30

1 Skydive
2 date a legit model
3 at least be on the way to know what i want to do with my life
4 go to europe
5 learn stick shift
6 learn a new language
7 learn to play an instrument
8 own a tuxedo
9 wear that tuxedo to a bar, just because
10 go back to korea
11 rock climb a real moutain
12 be able to wear a med t-shirt and 32 jeans
13 be able to dunk a small ball
14 run a 8 min mile
15 be in a band
16 be in a meaningful relationship
17 know the bible
18 learn how to tie a bow tie
19 shoot a gun
20 read more
21 have a six pack
22 learn to cook at least 20 dishes
23 be able to change my oil and brakes
24 fight in an octagon
25 own my own business again
26 kill a wild animal
27 go on a safari/cruise
28 fall in love and maybe out of love
29 make my own movie
30 learn to tango
 

Bro Code

First of all, I dont really like the word BRO. Also, most forms of bro, except brother. Especially broseph, probably most douchey thing to say.

Bro Code is something that is an unwritten rule between most men. We follow these unwritten rules in society, but shouldnt we just tell each other. Unwritten rules are hard to distinguish. A-rod last year yelled at a guy trying to catch a pop up and he was critized for breaking a unwritten rule. Well is that fair? Its not a real rule, because then it would be in the real rule book. Should we be offended by these acts?? 

The code gets people into trouble a lot. Personally, I dont think that every guy knows it. For example, a guy who doesnt really have many guy friends. You know the guy that who is mostly with just his girlfriends and doesnt really hang out with guys. 

I think some people just dont care about these rules. Does that say something about their character or should they be commended for their brashness?

For me, I think that as a society we need to follow rules written or unwritten. Bro code is one the essential ones. Why? because ninja!! We as brothers need to look out for the well being of each other. For example, You have to be a wing man and entertain the friend sometimes. Even if shes ugly or dull, you have to get her out of the way so that your friend can work his whatever. 

So people keep the bro code and if you dont know it holla at your boy and Ill drop some knowledge. Heres a video on some bro code etiquette.

Risk Taker??!!!??

A friend said something to me the other day that stuck in my head. He said ,"Dan Park, your a risk taker." I thought about that statement this weekend and said yeah I am a risk taker. But upon further introspection, I think I was a risk taker. Am I still the same guy???

At the age of 19, my friend and I decided to start a business. We had an idea and ambition, but didnt really know what we were doing. We got the business started, and had a store front. We were actually in business a couple of years. Eventually, things fell apart. I risked money and time at that point. 

After college, I decided to come to the ATL. I didnt know anybody here and just had a job. I was uncertain what I was gonna do. Yeah I had a job, but not much else. I decided to come here basically on a whim. Got on craigslist and found a place. Didnt know my roommates were gonna be crazy and another risk. Thinking about it, I could have at least been robbed or shot. Im from Philly though and I am use to that. 

The past two years while I have been in Atlanta. I feel that I havent really taken too many risks. I wonder why???Is it because I am getting old  and more cautious or Is it because I dont have the opportunity. I dont want to walk through life. I want to run. I may fall, but I'll get back up and keep taking risks. Let the risky business begin!!!

 

Let's Be Friends

I liked this one girl and I asked her out. We went on a date and actually wasnt that great. I thought conversation was good towards the end, but maybe not good enough to save it.

My personality is the type not to like many women. Maybe, I am picky or whatever but  that is for a different post. But I thought I liked her a lot. I really liked her personality, she is cool and quirky. 

So, she said the phrase that everybody dreads, "Lets be friends." NINJA PLEASE moment. I mean I think I have enough friends. Its kind of assholish to think that way, but after some contemplation I would like another friend in my life. I should have known because on the "date" it didnt feel like one. It just felt kinda weird. 

Anyways, I was pretty disappointed for about an hour and tried to go to sleep. Fucking coffee, why do I drink thee??? But after about an hour I was kinda-sorta fine with it. I eventually went to sleep. The next morning, as I was waking up, I felt the best I have felt in a long time. I was joyful and happy. Maybe the happiest I have been in a long long while. I wondered, "Why are you happy?" I think I was happy because I got my feelings off my chest and went through with my actions. I accomplished something. Even though the end result wasn't in my favor, I took a risk and did something.

This morning, I felt like I was living. I was a zombie for a while, but now I am living again. I rose from the dead, brushed my shoulders off and went my way back to where people live. I dont know why, but I felt that I got my swagger back. My mojo is back.(insert: Oh behave- Austin Powers). Honestly, I wasn't too excited about the girl after the date. It wasn't like some dates I had, where I wanted to see the person immediately. Singing the song "When Can I see you Again" by babyface. I think thats why it didnt really bother me too much. But I love the feeling of potential love. The feeling that someone you can spend the future with. Call me cheesey, but I dont care. 

One more thing to add...Im gonna start living like I should be. No more sitting on my ass and complaining about stuff not happening in my life. No I will be an earth shaker no matter what. Self encouragement is always good.