Time Management

I was talking to a friend of mine and he said that it seems like I was good with time management. I laughed. I am horrible with time management, but somehow all the things I want to get done get done. I think its not that I have good management skills, but things to remind me that eventually I need to get those things done. My personality is a guy who is not a planner. I do things spur of the moment. But when that moment is there. I get things done. I dont try to dance around and not do them. I just do.

DP Feeling

So one day, a friend and I were talking about what we thought of each other the first time we met. I said that he looked like a guy that wanted to fight me. My feeling was that if this guy wants to fight me,ok Ill go ahead and fight him. He said that was weird and he never heard of that before. He called it a "Dan Park Feeling". I think its because Im from Philly (BTW I probably use the "Im from Philly" card a lot.) that I have these feelings.

Im back in Philly right now and I've noticed that a lot of us are always on guard. We (people from Philly) go to places and we are just defensive and ready to fight.

But sometimes you look at people and they look like they just want to attack you. I say bring it on most of the time. With my eyes of course. Next you see me ask what it looks like Ill show you.

Church

I've always loved the church. Growing up, I went to a smaller church maybe of a hundred or so congregation. We had a small kids group. They were like brothers and sisters to me. Some of my fondest memories were at church. We just didn't do church stuff. We did some bad things too. Drugs, gambling and all the otehr things that usually you wouldn't associate with church.

My friend asked me why I spend so much time at church. I told him its because I love it. They are my second family. You don't always like all of the members of your family, but you still love the memebers. I feel that way with church. Church is more than a place of just worship to God, but church should be one body. We love and support each other. When someone is hurting we comfort each other. When we don't like our church, we shouldn't just leave but instead try to change it.

People love to dwell on the negative sides of church. "I like God, but hate organized religion" many people say. They say church goers are hypocrites. But when you look into your own liffe aren't you a hypocrite. Aren't we all just sinners, who need God. But God says that we need the body also and the body needs us. We are not loners in the world with our own beliefs. We are suppose to be a community. I feel like thats what we are lacking in society today. People like being in their own space. They like not having to talk to people. I use to be like that too. I said to myself that they can see one side of me but not the other. I realized later on that was the wrong thinking. Or I say I don't want people in my life. I have enough friends. I was wrong. When we have community, we are held accountable. We have people who love us and are able to rebuke us because we are wrong so so so many times in our lives.

I will finish my thought on this someday.....

Mother's Day

My mother was a single mom since I was four. I am always grateful to her for the sacrifices that she had to make. Her family is an academic famiy. She had a chance to be a professor at a college in Korea when my father left me. But she chose to stay in America and work at Dunkin Donuts. She chose me instead of a career or even a better life. She could have left me with my grandparents but she chose to stay. I will always be thankful for that.

 She always felt bad that she didn't give me the life that I deserved and thought that she could have given me a lot more when I was growing up. I always thought she did a great job but she always felt guilty. The greatest thing she gave me was love. She was always affectionate, encouraging and nurturing


She still is one of my best friends. Shes loves hearing my voice. Gets excited hearing from me. Always loving me more than I loved her.

  When I was young maybe around 5 or 6, I wanted a happy meal from Mcdonalds. I asked her to get me one, but she said that we were too poor and we couldn't afford it. So, we just passed it by. About an year later, my mom made more money. We stopped by Mcdonalds and she bought me a happy meal. Ater that day, we stopped by every day ffor almost a week. I was sick of it and asked my mom why we kept going there. She said that she felt so bad that one day she couldn't buy the happy meal that she felt like she owed it too me.

 My mother is always thinking about others. I have never met someone so selfless and dont think I ever will. Always giving to her family. She changed careers from being a store owner to a computer programmer to registered nurse.An amazing woman. A single woman with a kid, doing great things.


I gave this song to her as a Mother's Day Present when this song first came out. She put it on replay for months. It was the single by the way. Not the full album.

Applebees

So, I just came back from Applebees and realized that it has been my hang out place for years. I know sounds kind of sad. Its a place with mediocre and service. The environment is not the best. But for the past 10 years, it  has been a place that I have constantly gone. A place where I've had some deep meaningful conversations and also a place where we talked about useless stuff.

See the reason why Applebees was always good is because of the 1/2 price appetizers after ten.Seeing that I am and was broke all the time, It was the perfect place to go. For some reason too, conversation is always better late at night. Maybe because your tired and you let your guard down a little.

Before, it was a group of four of us. We would go and talk for hours. I dont remember most of the things we use to talk about. Now, Its usually three of us. We usually watch the games and talk. I still dont know what we usually talk about. But we always have fun.

Song of the day:

Cheesesteaks

So While I'm in Philly, I will list my favorite cheesesteaks. I like my cheesesteaks with fried onions, mushrooms and provolone. Some times with wiz but thats just on occasions.

1 Johns Roast Pork- Best in the world. The meat is great. Its on a seeded bun. Bread is delicious. Hard on the outside and soft on the inside, kinda like me.

2 Chinks- Meat is just great. You also can get a mean shake as well. Old time feel inside the restaurant.

3 Steve's Prince of Steaks- Staple of the North East. I like this one with wiz.

4. Tony Luke's- You also can do the five pound Cheese steak challenge.

5. Dalessandro's -meat and onions are chopped nicely. Cheese well spread out over the roll.

Five minute Friend

In sales there is a thing called making a five minute friend. Basically while you are with the person, you become their friend just in that first five minutes of meeting them. You get them to tell you things. For some reason too, its always easier to tell dark or crazy stuff about your self to strangers. Then you sell them what you have. The better you are at that the better sales man you will be.

I'm in Philly right now. The thing I loved about the Northeast is people will talk to you. Especially in the supermarket or any kind of line. For example, today I was in line at barnes and nobles coffee section. The line was super long and only one person was working. We started chit chatting in line about the amount of stress the girl must feel trying to get stuff done as quickly as possible. We started talking about tv shows and then where they lived. I think that is one of the things I really miss about this area. Interaction with strangers. Making a five minute friend.

A Day in the Park

If you are a frequent reader of my blog, You will remember my post on what two guys cant do together. I did one of these things, although I did not list it. It still should be on there and that is going to the park and doing what I did.

So, It all started as a normal day. I went to eat with my friends and I was running late. After we were done eating, my friend thought it would be funny to suggest that we go to the park and have a picnic. He thought I would be totally against it because that would be gay. I said :sure, and I have some bread to bring." He told me he was joking. The original plan was to go the shooting range.

The day was so nice I said "lets go to the park." We decided to go and get kites and feed the ducks. I know sounds super gay right. But I've got to say that it was great. I felt so free and child like as I flew my kite. My kite also flew the highest. Here are some pictures below. Next time you are wondering what to do on a beautiful day you might want to go to the park.

Friendship Bracelets Cause were friends!!!

Ducklings!!

Being a Jedi!!!

Happiness!!!

Breaking the Rules

Marriage...

I always wanted to get married, but always late in my life. I never wanted to marry too early. I even think 35 was the best age too get married. But recently I was talking to a friend of mine, he was talking about his marriage and how happy he was. He started describing their relationship, the comfort he has with her and how he likes being around her all the time. As he was speaking, I was feeling envious of what he has.

As the weeks pasted, I've gone to a wedding and seen peoples marriages. I want the same thing. For the first time in my life, I know that I am ready at least emotionally for marriage.Its a weird thing to say. (Also, I'm not looking to get married this year or anything. Its just that if I know I meet the right girl, I wouldn't hesitate to pull the trigger.) A friend of mine told me 2 years ago that he was ready for marriage. I looked him in the eyes and said "Your crazy" and "I'm not". I guess people will look at me as the crazy one now.

No it all

I am a pretty young man still, but when I was younger I thought I knew it all. Like most young people, I thought I was invincible. I could do anything because I was smart, young, full off energy and ambition. But the one thing that I never accounted for was experience and wisdom.

I had my own business at the age or 20. My partner and I thought we were gonna be millionaires by the age of 30. No one could stop us. After a few years, I learned that the reality is that everything stops you. Its a cold reality when you learn that you know nothing at all. All the things you thought were true are really not. The day that you find out that you know nothing, thats when you get your real wisdom.

When I found out that I dont really know anything, the world opened up to me. The search for knowledge was greater. I became more of a sponge and tried to learn from my elder especially. But I also found out that I don't need to know everything. Everything has its place and sometimes we just need to just trust in that if you know what I mean. If you dont, then it might someday.