Post 5/100 When work goes to ....

I walk into the office this morning and I find out from my manager that couple of my loans have gone to shit. There are all these problems that I don't really want to handle. I guess I don't really like confrontation. I'm not scared of it, but I rather not tell someone that the money they invested into their home is actually down the toliet.

I am a loan officer. I have been for about a year. The thing that I can tell you about this job is that it makes you want to drink. Actually, we have many people who were or currently are alcoholics. What do I do? Good question. I get people a loan they are qualified for depending on their income, debt and credit scores. There are many pitfalls to this job. An underwriter can kill your loan becasue they don't like something about it. We complain, but most of the time she is a bitch and will offer the same reasons. Appraisers tell us the value of a home. They can kill the loan becasue the hosue doe not have enough value. We can complain if the value comes in short, but like I said if they are jerks they don't have to consider anything. Clients can kill your loan becasue they are too slow ie giving you documents and not telling you pertainant information or they do dumb stuff like buy a new car, quit their job etc,

Then you also have to deal with rates. Rates are like the stock market they go up and down all the time. You have to time it right. Many people will just lie to a person and offer something that is not there. I don't like to do that. My favorite quote someone used was,"Hope is not an investment strategy." Everyone thinks they know all about it. They try to tell me stuff they read off the internet. I ask them what they do for a living. Doctor, Lawyer, baker, software engineer. I don't tell you how to do your job or even act like I know what is going on except for lawyer because I see a lot of Law and Order.

Well, I have to make this call now.

But today is Friday and after a few hours I don't have to worry about work until Monday.

Post 4/100 Cultural Icons

I'm sure everyone knows that Steve Jobs died yesterday. Death of a Cultural icon. Yes, he was a genius but did he personally touch my life? No.

I don't understand why we get so riled up for the passing of these icons. I just think it is kind of childish. I love Amy Winehouse's music. It was sad to see her pass, but will I make a memorial for her. No.

All of those things seem very childish to me. I'm probably wrong and maybe I don't have a heart blah blah blah.

People did this person really affect my life. No. Its cool that computers are around, but I'm sure if he didn't do it somebody would have.

We make these people into our idols and they are just the same as all of us. It is sad that people die, but learn from them or appreciate what they have made and move on.

Post 3/100 Unexpected Heroes

The Phillies are in the playoffs. Tied at 0-0 in the bottom of the 7th. The manager from the other team intentionally walks a man to make sure Ben Francisco is going to bat. Who is Ben Franciso? Well, he is a journey man player. He has been with several teams. He hasn't hit a home run in 4 1/2 months. Play and simple he is not that good. Decent player but not the person you dream of being in that spot. With 2 people on base, he hits a 3 run game winning home run. One of the most unlikely heroes. As Phillies' fans will remember Matt Stairs also a journey man hit a home run two years ago to win the game.

I love sports because it reflects life in many ways. Unlikely heroes appear in our lives as well. People who are in your lives for an instant but leave a deep impression in your lives. We live our lives and many times we think that we do not do anything major because we don't see the lasting affects. We choose not to talk to this man or do something for somebody, when maybe our words make an huge impression on them.

I guess for me. My unlikely hero was this man in the neighborhood. My mom had a store in a bad neighborhood. North Philly in the Huntington park area. I was about 6 years old. Sitting at the counter and the lunch rush had come and gone. A kid about 16-18 come in . I look at him. He was huge. Tall, lean and lanky. Nobody was around. I think my mom was in the back cleaning up. He goes over the counter and steals a box of 3 Musketeer bars and Carton of Newports. He runs out. About 20 minutes later, I see a man coming into our store. A grizzly, old black man comes in. He is just holding a bunch of candy bars and a gun in his waist.Like a Ghetto Cowboy.

I guess that was the moment I had faith in people. I never really lost that faith. Sure, I'm cynical alot.But every time I think about that moment it makes me think of the kindness of people. Maybe God put them there to watch over you. I believe people will rally around others and help, but heroes are not just people who rescue you.

 They maybe that person who gives you a word of encouragement, a conversation to spark your imagination, a person who keeps your sanity intact or a mentor.

Unlikely heroes come out of every place, we just have to recognize when they are there.

Post 2/100: Interracial dating

Interracial dating. I'm for it. I really am. I love a variety of women. But being an Asian man, it seems like Asian women are dating more outside the race than Asian men. It kinda screws up the ratios.

In my family, its been quite the opposite. My three older cousins who grew up in America have married outside the Korean race. Two of the women they married were white. I feel like so many Asian women are dating outside of the race compared to the Asian Men. When I see an Asian guy dating a non Asian, I kinda feel proud. If they walk by me, I usually give them a look of approval. Well its more like a nod. They usually understand and nod back. Funny how that whole system works as well.

My Favorite Interracial couples:

Bruce Lee/ Linda Lee
Robin Thicke/Paula Patton
Seal/ Heidi Klum
Nicolas Cage/ Alice Kim
Halle Berry/ Whoever she is with at that time

Post 1/100:Things that Bother me Pt 2

I thought I would begin this process with something light hearted. I'm excited to begin this 100 days of blogging.

I get bothered by many things. I'm a little Woody Allen in those terms.

Things that bother me:

When I'm in the bathroom and take a 2, I hear another person leaving the bathroom without the water running. I know someone hasn't washed their hands. It kinda freaks me out the whole day.

Your eating something in a bag or container and the person who eats it before you leaves like the tiniest portion still there or jsut leaves the box with nothing in it.

i go into my work's kitchen/breakroom area and they don't shut the microwave oven door. Come on Son!!! Just shut it. It takes minimal effort.

People who have their bluetooth thing in their ear, but they still talk putting the reciever to their other ear.

I have a boss and he gets close to my ear to say things. It feels weird like hes gonna kiss my ear lob. He always tells me to lower my voice, when im not really talking about anything.

Person with the loud ringtone and isn't there to pick up the phone.I feel like grabbing their phone and throwing in the ocean.

Person who looks at their bright ass phone in the movie theather. "Your blinding me with your light"

Twitter

People who get angry at other people because of twitter/facebook. #Imsobitter

Gay people who are overly gay.

My slow internet!!

100 Posts in a 100 days!

I haven't posted in a while, but I am determined to do this. A friend of mine has chosen to do 92 things in 92 days. He has inspired me to blog more.

I will probably move to Wordpress during this 100 day thing.

It starts tomorrow!!! Ajja Ajja!!

Men's Survey: Dating

Askmen.com takes a survey every year. Its called the Great Male Survey. It already assumes that men taking this survey are great but thats besides the point. Look at the survey for yourself. CLICK HERE.

Im going to talk about the dating section today. The other stuff next time.

I think that overall this makes the point that men are mostly pretty decent. Sure your gonna look at the question 8:

Would you dump your girlfriend if she became fat? 47% said yes, but 53% said no. Also, it says girlfriend not wife.

IF THERE WERE NO CHANCE OF YOUR PARTNER FINDING OUT, HOW LIKELY WOULD YOU BE TO CHEAT? 72% said Not likely

Yeah it sounds shallow, but if this girl is not your wife its kinda understandable.

HOW MANY DATES SHOULD A MAN PAY FOR? 65% said they should pay for the majority

I agree. What kind of douche is not gonna pay. If you don't have enough money, dont take a girl out. Like me.


OF THE CHOICES LISTED BELOW, WHAT BEST MOTIVATES YOU TO BE ROMANTIC? 72% feeling close to my partner

The other choice was to have sex. Im surprised that it is less. Maybe thats why I'm single.
 HOW SATISFIED ARE YOU WITH YOUR SEX LIFE? Majority of me are not completey satisfied with their sex lives

I think if our society was satisifed, then there would be less bad stuff happening. Be like, "Umm I'm good right now, maybe I shouldn't get locked up"


WOULD YOU EVER DATE SOMEONE IN YOUR OFFICE? 45% say its a terrible idea (Majority)

 I would definitely date someone. It might lead to some weirdness, but thats the price of love. Damn sounds so cheesey.

A majority of men 48% said that they would not break up with their girlfriend even though she is not wife material.

I strongly disagree. I feel that many men wind up in this trap. They get comfortable with the girl and finally have to settle down so they settle with her. No, if you dont think shes the one drop her plan and simple.

Rock and a Hard Place

Why do we put ourselves in bad situations? Situations that we know that we will not come out better. Yet, it seems like we don't try to get out. Maybe its like the Godfather, "Just when I thought I was out, they pull me back in."

I feel like I do that to myself many times. I am probably the man with the least amount of drama, but I am self destructive. I do things that I know will harm, but choose to do them. I wonder if I am afraid of success sometimes. Am I just lazy?
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RiRa

RiRa in Irish means fighting spirit or thats what I have been told. Rira is also a bar/ restaurant. A couple of my friends say it in a chinese/asian accent sounds more fun. Yeah were kinda stupid. The point is we were there the other day and discussed a couple of interesting topics. 

Whats the Craic!!- Its a term oh saying hello. Hows life going. A greeting. I was excited to here the phrase adn kept saying it to people.

The "Break"- So its the separtion between the butt and thigh. Asian women don't really have the break. Black people love the break, but they also love asian women. Kinda weird. Got to say. I love the break.

Bottom Boob. So at Rira they had a costume contest. They called it Redneck Hoedown. My friend was wearing a shirt that had cut off sleeves. He was talking to these two girls. He said he was revealing "side boob". He was talking to some girl and said that she was revealing a lot of "top boob" normal cleavage. After a while I started talking to her, she mentioned the "top boob". I told her that I have a lot of reverence towards the "top boob", but I love the "bottom boob". Now you might ask why??? Well, "bottom boob" is always pretty much hidden. So when it does come out. Its like a awesome surprise. Like getting a present when its not your birthday. "Bottom Boob" is so rare that makes it all the more precious. Spotting "bottom boob" is like seeing a shooting star. You can't help but be mezmerized by it.

Ok so this post was pretty stupid. I will load pictures for examples, when I am not at work.

What I've learned 26

So it was my birthday last week. I've stated in the past that life is wasted if you don't learn anything. Ive learned little things. I learned how to make risotto. I learned some words. Ive learned some things about the world. The two things that stick out to me the most:

Expectations- I would get mad at people if they did not fulfill my expectations. It is kinda weird if you think about it. Sometimes I think that people should know the social norms. Thinking about that today, I shouldn't really get mad at those things. We all come from different backgrounds. It is pretty unreasonable for me to think that one person should act a way I think they should act. Thats a ME problem for sure. I should just take people as they.

Nothing is impossible with God: I always knew this thing. I always thought about this. I don't think I really believed it though. Through out this year God has been proving that to me over and over again. Ill give you an example. My grandmother has been suffering from a bladder problem for at least six years. She had cancer in her utereus years ago. In Korea, I dont think they had the best cancer treatment back in the day. So basically she would have her bladder not empty out fully. She had to put a catherter in all the time. Carry it like a hand bag. Someone prayed ove her and she was healed. Ive never seen something like this. You hear of these kind of things but you never really see these things. She has been healed for about 2 months now. Amazing

Hopefully I will learn much more and be molded into a better person in my 27th year.